19 Comments

  1. Liz A.

    Students like to make suppositions about my life. I think that happens anywhere. But when such things become hurtful, that's a problem.

    • Yes, I don't think for a second there's only barmaids find this, I'm sure it happens anywhere there are people! I agree – especially when they have been told time and again that their comments aren't funny and are upsetting people!

  2. Blogger Mummy Lauren

    There are always people in your life who like to spread gossip, I take it as a compliment that my life is obviously more interesting than theirs 😉
    I used to work in a bar and I remember the rumours and gossip all too well!

  3. Angela Entwistle

    'People' can be awful at time, not stopping to think about what they say. Sadly, I very much doubt that human kind will change (or not anytime soon) as it's no doubt something which has carried on for hundreds of years. It is hurtful and as difficult as it is, 'turn the other cheek' and 'rise above it.'
    Angela x

    • You're probably right there – I can't see it changing any time soon. Honestly, when it's about me I just roll my eyes, laugh and move on, but when they are upsetting other people, I struggle to bite my tongue!

  4. I hear you! Oh, they're everywhere. You could be doing good or not doing at all and there will be nasty rumors about you still. These are from people who are bored, empty, lonely, miserable.

    Just ignore them and carry on with your happy fulfilling life.

    Enjoy the weekend.

  5. Talya Stone

    I don't get people who spread rumours. They must be a) very insecure and b) very bored and without a life of their own. It takes a certain kind of venomous person to spread rumours…haters will be haters…#effitfriday

  6. Sarah Howe - Run Jump Scrap

    I'm so surprised this stuff even goes on all the time – how can people make up such rubbish that isn't even true when it is so hurtful to others? good rant hun!! xx #effitfrriday

  7. this stuff happens all of the time in any job and you are right to be thick skinned. Eventually people get bored of the stories and move on to a more interesting topic. Unfortunately, I think if you show that you are upset or unnerved by the stories then people don't let it drop so easily and as quickly. Life's tough! You need to have a chat with your fellow barmaids to help them to be a bit thick skinned. I reckon you should start creating some stories about some of your clients in the bar and see how they feel.

  8. this stuff happens all of the time in any job and you are right to be thick skinned. Eventually people get bored of the stories and move on to a more interesting topic. Unfortunately, I think if you show that you are upset or unnerved by the stories then people don't let it drop so easily and as quickly. Life's tough! You need to have a chat with your fellow barmaids to help them to be a bit thick skinned. I reckon you should start creating some stories about some of your clients in the bar and see how they feel.

    • The way I see it is these people aren't my friends or anyone who's opinion worries me (obviously there are some nice people who I do class as friends but they aren't the ones bitching). I do try and help the others see that but recently it got out of hand. I haven't gone into detail because it's really personal and not about me so I think it's unfair to share the details. I'm definitely liking that suggestion though 🙂

  9. I think this happens everywhere. Behind a bar, at a magazine, at a mother's group 🙂 You're good to shake it off (as Taylor Swift says).
    On a completely unrelated topic, I did a piece once about unofficial
    counsellors like barmaids, taxi drivers, hairdressers, etc. Have you found in your job that people like to tell you all their problems / seek your advice? 🙂

  10. I think you're right there is bitichyness everywhere and rumour spreading. I think it happens when you have a lot of people in one place. There are some places where it is more pronounced, like when there are a drink or 5 in people……thanks for linking to #effitfriday

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