That’s it, the best piece of advice I think anyone can ever take – stop putting yourself down.
We all have plenty of haters who are willing to do this for us. Why should we make it easy for them by believing it to the point that we actually join in.
By putting yourself down, you are telling others it’s ok to put you down. And it’s not ok. It’s never ok.
In an ideal world, we should all be raising each other up rather than knocking each other down, but it’s not an ideal world, and there will always be someone who gets their kicks from being horrible to other people in an attempt to make themselves look good. Why should you agree and validate their belief that behaviour like that is acceptable?
You don’t have to be put down for someone else’s ego boost or entertainment or whatever it is these people get out of it.
And every time you put yourself down, you are letting someone like this, some bully, think it’s ok to put you down.
If someone compliments you, don’t argue with them. Say thank you.
I know it’s ingrained in us here in the UK (and I’m sure other places too) to be humble and not blow your own trumpet. That’s ok, I’m not asking you to start telling everyone how great you are, just stop doing the opposite.
You can be modest and still accept that you have good points.
If you really can’t bear to not put yourself down for your own benefit, then consider it from the view point of your friends, family, partner, colleagues etc.
These people like and respect you. They think you are someone worthy of their time.
Every time you put yourself down, or refuse to accept a compliment you’re telling them, and anyone else who may be listening, that they are a bad judge of character.
It’s a bit of a kick in the teeth if a friends says “I love your dress,’ and you say “This old thing, I don’t really like it.” You’re telling your friend you think they have poor taste. How much nicer would it be to smile and say thank you. Maybe even say you like something of theirs.
So please, for the sake of your own sense of self worth (or for your friends if you really can’t do it for yourself), stop putting yourself down.
You matter. You are important. You deserve to be happy.
And the sooner you stop putting yourself down, the sooner you will see it too.
Do you put yourself down? Are you good at accepting compliments? Let me know in the comments 🙂